The Art of Letting Go
For some reason, on a deep subconscious level, we have been taught that holding on to things, memories, and people who do not serve us is a sign of strength; when in actuality it is a sign of fear and fear is the lowest level of emotion that one can be on. simply put, nothing good comes out of a fearful place. I repeat… NOTHING GOOD COMES OUT OF A PLACE OF FEAR.
There are many reasons why we could be afraid of letting go of something that clearly doesn’t serve us; each person with his/her own unique reasons, reasons that do not matter. The only thing that matters is that the sooner you learn to let go, the better for you. It could be the memory of painful words said by a spouse or a toxic person in your life, but true strength is letting go and knowing that you will be fine no matter what and indeed… you will.
I have come to realize that more often than not in life, you must give up the thing you are most scared of losing to gain something better and move forward to a better place. There are a thousand and one excuses why you believe you should hold on to things that do not serve you; let me tell you this… excuses are for people who don’t want to move forward to a better place in their lives. Do whatever and say whatever but deep down we always know the things that we must let go of to be truly happy in life. Below are ten quotes on letting go
1. The truth is, unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. – Steve Maraboli
2. No matter how much suffering you went through, you never wanted to let go of those memories. – Haruki Murakami
3. Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down. – Roy T. Bennett
4. Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny. – Steve Maraboli
5. Letting go doesn’t mean that you don’t care about someone anymore. It’s just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself. – Deborah Reber
6. Time doesn’t heal emotional pain, you need to learn how to let go. – Roy T. Bennett
7. There is no such thing as a “broken family.” Family is family, and is not determined by marriage certificates, divorce papers, and adoption documents. Families are made in the heart. The only time family becomes null is when those ties in the heart are cut. If you cut those ties, those people are not your family. If you make those ties, those people are your family. And if you hate those ties, those people will still be your family because whatever you hate will always be with you. – C. JoyBell C.
7. Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it. – Ann Landers
8. If you spend your time hoping someone will suffer the consequences for what they did to your heart, then you’re allowing them to hurt you a second time in your mind. – Shannon L. Alder
9. There ain’t no way you can hold onto something that wants to go, you understand? You can only love what you got while you got it. – Kate DiCamillo
10. If you truly want to be respected by people you love, you must prove to them that you can survive without them. – Michael Bassey Johnson
Letting go is no easy fit, especially when it comes to something that you have been holding on to for a number of years but ask yourself this before you enter another year of holding on to pain. “Is it worth my sanity?” If the answer is no then you know what to do.
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You must know that the art of letting go is a process, it is a skill that must be developed not something that magically appears. When you’ve let go of something, in some cases, you may keep letting it go over and over again until it is completely gone. It is also important not to hate the situation or the person you are trying to let go of because whatever you hate you bring close to you along with all the negative things that go with hate.
If you do feel the feelings of hate, do not panic; stop in the moment, and send love to the person, thing, or situation. A simple “I love you” said several times will help. Above all, Patience is a virtue; if you know that you won’t be patient with yourself on this journey, then there is no need for starting it.